Types of ladies you should never date

As we go on dates trying to cast our nets wide in search of ‘the ONE’ we come across different types of people, some with traits we would rather avoid.

Dating is not about critically evaluating potential partners, because you can never find anyone who is perfect, but learning which flaws you are willing to handle for the sake of a solid relationship.

Healthy relationships are a two way street and are vital for our overall well-being, both parties need to learn how to be the best version of themselves for their partners.

However, sometimes it may seem like everyone you settle for is the ‘wrong ONE’. Well, if you’re one of these guys, below are five kinds of women to avoid:

  1. The psycho.

These women can be the most beautiful women in the planet, sometimes supermodel gorgeous and you even find yourself pinching yourself to prove you’re not dreaming… she is actually dating you!

Her beauty easily blinds you; she is a special kind of crazy! This girl will stalk your social media profiles, she will even find distant cousins that you never knew you even had.

She has anger outbursts, unpredictable moods, one minute she loves you and the next is biting your head off.

She may have an actual personality disorder and zero insight about her behaviour.

She may even say she is “PMS-ing” but do not buy that excuse.

You might need to change your number or move houses if you leave this kind of woman.

2. The damsel in distress.

You must ask yourself, why is she always having problems? Why is there always something bad happening to her.

You don’t need to be a superhero. Rescuing that troubled woman can be somehow appealing.

She has a low paying job and she can’t foot her car loan once again so you pity her and this tugs at your heartstrings and you foot yet another bill for her. She is incapable of pulling herself up by her bootstraps.

Just remember, if you rescue a damsel in distress, you end up with nothing more than a distressed damsel. Ask yourself what will happen if you needed to count on her.

You should not have to rescue a person time and again. Run!

3. The needy one.

She is a bottomless well of needs. Clingy is the word.

You must constantly reassure her of your love and that everything in the relationship is okay.

She wanted to get married from date three and believes you are her “soul mate.” If you miss her calls or fail to respond to texts instantly she gets a panic attack.

Forget about boys’ nights out, she simply cannot let you out of her sight, and on the off chance she does, your phone will be blowing up all evening.

This kind of woman will fish for compliments from you and is always spewing negative comments about herself.

It is absolutely okay to reassure your partner every now and then, however, a woman who solely depends on outside affirmation to feel good can weigh you down. In fact, you may die trying to make her feel secure in herself. My advice? Cut the weight.

4. The control freak.

Do you wonder if you exist in your relationship?

These women are as bossy as they come. Some hide behind what NeYo calls ‘miss independent’ tag.

She makes all the decisions and beats you down when you try to assert yourself.

She decides when and where you go, with whom you go on dates and may even isolate you from your regular friends.

Your friends are noticing that she is the one in control of everything and begin losing respect for you.

Take back your self-respect and leave this woman!

5. The “you complete me” woman

These kinds of women use phrases like “You complete me.” At first it will seem fine when she wants to be around you most of the time as the relationship is still in its honeymoon stage. But soon it will begin draining you.

This may go to the extent of you changing your religious beliefs, hobbies or group of friends.

It is healthy to be in a relationship with a woman who knows that there is life outside of your relationship; a woman who has her own friends and activities to indulge in so as to create mystery and depth in the relationship.

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MY WIFE, MY RIB……

●Don’t shout at your wife when you are talking. It really hurts her. (Proverbs 15:1)

●Do not speak evil of her to anyone. Your wife will become who you call her. (Gen. 2:19)

●Do not share her love or affection with another woman. It is called Adultery. (Matt. 5:28)

●Never compare your wife to another woman. If the other woman was good for you, God would have given her to you. (2 Cor. 10:12)

●Don’t ever allow her to beg you for sex. She owns your body just as you own her body. (1 Cor. 7:5)

●Be gentle and accommodating. She has sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her deeply when you are hash and irritating. Be tender. (Eph. 4:2)

●Hide nothing from her. You are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret you are keeping from her. (Gen. 2:25)

●Do not make negative comment about her body. She risked her life and beauty to carry your babies. She is a living soul not just flesh and blood.

●Do not let her body determine her worth. Cherish and appreciate her even till old age. (Eph. 5:29)

●Never shout at her in the public and in private. If you have an issue to sort with her, do it in the privacy of your room. (Matt. 1:19)

●Thank and appreciate her for taking good care of you, the kids and the house. It is a great sacrifice she is making. (1 The 5:18)

●All women cannot cook the same way; appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to cook three meals a day, 365 days a year for several years. (Pro. 31:14)

●Never place your siblings before her. She is your wife. She is one with you. She must come before your family. (Gen. 2:24)

●Invest seriously in her spiritual growth. Buy books, tapes and any material that will edify her and strengthen her walk with God. That’s the best thing you can do for her. (Eph. 5:26)

●Spend time with her to do Bible study and pray. (James 5:16)

●Make time to play with her and enjoy her company. Remember when you are dead, she’s gonna be by your grave but your friends may be too busy to attend your funeral. (Ecc. 9:9)

●Never use money to manipulate or control her. All your money belongs to her. She is a joint heir with you of the grace of God. (1 Pet. 3:7)

●Do not expose her weakness. You will be exposing yourself too. Be a shield around her. (Eph. 5:30)

●Never cease to tell her how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never tired of hearing that. (Eph. 5:25)

●Grow to be like Christian ,That’s the only way you can be a good and godly husband. (Rom. 8:29)

HEALING POWER OF A HEARTBREAK

Heartbreak. It’s one of the biggest issues that comes up in my private practice. Love gone awry equals deep emotional pain, a spike in insecurity and a temporary desire to retreat from the world, at least from the dating world. Nothing can rock one’s life more than suffering from a broken heart.

Scientists have gotten very good at identifying the areas of the brain that are responsible for this undeniable despair. The neuroscience behind heartbreak seems to suggest love is not only an emotion, but also functions as an action. Love is actually goal-oriented. When people are in love, their only motivation is to get and keep the object of their desires. The part of the brain devoted to the breakup has thousands of neural circuits devoted to this person, so it takes the brain some time to realize, come to terms with and ultimately recover from the harsh reality that this person is no longer there; hence, the reason why we feel this profound pain.

But what if this pain, this heartbreak, was actually good for you? Hard to imagine, right? But this is exactly what I told my heartbroken girlfriend: “Your heartbreak is good for you!” Sounds like a heartless response, doesn’t it? But it actually wasn’t. At least it wasn’t meant to be.

You’re supposed to feel badly after a breakup. It’s the body’s way of communicating its pain. And if managed correctly, this heartbreak can lead you to a better, more creative and much stronger emotional place.

There are many potentially positive effects of experiencing and working through one’s heartbreak. It’s not easy work, that’s for sure, but if you put in the time, the benefits can be huge!

• Strength Comes From Your Resilience

After the dust settles, there is strength one can gain on the other side of heartbreak. You learn that you’re absolutely able to bounce back from the tremendous sadness and grief the demise of this relationship has caused.

• Important Lessons Can Be Learned

When a relationship ends, new questions get asked. Self-awareness can increase. Figuring out what you have learned from this situation, and how it has served as a stepping stone for your future relationships is invaluable information for you to have.

• Figure Out What Changes Need to Be Made

This may be the perfect time to look at your own shortcomings, as few as they might be (wink, wink). When we modify our own behavior and learn how to create positive personal adjustments, this creates a tremendous sense of empowerment and hope. This shift in thinking can also help our next relationship to be more rewarding and successful.

• And Finally We Develop a Deep Sense of Gratitude

It’s not uncommon for people post-heartbreak to look back on their past and ill-fated relationship with a sense of gratitude. They feel happy they are no longer with this person, yet equally grateful this person was a part of their love journey history. They feel thankful this experience helped shape them into being the person they are today.

So you see, heartbreak can provide a lot of positive psychological benefits. And It can ultimately pave the way for having something bigger, better and more beautiful come your way. And if none of the above strategies work for you, remember:

 Living well is always the best revenge! 

Esther Ampadu

SEPTEMBER 27, 2017 AT AM7:44

 Going through heartbreaks in relationship really strengthens you, gives you all the experience you need and prepares you for your true love

BEING A ROMANTIC WOMAN..

 Many times we have insisted a lot on men being romantic forgetting that women should be romantic too.

Men secretly want women who are romantic, and most men define it as a romantic woman is a woman who can see them, treat them and respond to them in a special way all the time. So how can you do it as a woman?

  1. RESPECT YOUR MAN

Treat yourself with respect, nurture your ego and let you know who is the most special man in the world. This, dear, is the most romantic thing you can do for your man.

  2. ALWAYS SHOW APPRECIATION

Enjoy the little things he does for you, enjoy the environment and appreciate the great things when you’re together; Enjoy everything, appreciate their presence, appreciate their attention with giving back attention. Any woman who appreciates her man will certainly want to give the world to him.

  3. ALWAYS BE SUPPORTIVE

Be there for him, support him at all times, and through his actions he knows he has a soldier who has turned his back. When you are always there for him, that is the best gift you can give.

  4. SURPRISE HIM SOMETIMES

You would be surprised to know that men also like to be surprised by their wives. Instead of doing everything that gets all the time, take the time to surprise your man, and you will be surprised how excited you get. When you excite his man wait to get excited in return.

  5. ALWAYS HOW HIM LOVE

Love your man always loving him and loving him when he is right when he is wrong. Love when he is gentle and loving when he is upset. He notices his love for him, and he tends to calibrate, and when he believes that his love for him is high, he would love and appreciate even more.

   6. LISTENING

Sometimes all you have to do is listen and pay attention to it. Give your attention, and when you do this, you pass a message to it that it is worth.

If you have not done these things for your man, then you’ve never been romantic with him.

WHY NEVER TO DATE A HEAVY SOCIAL MEDIA USER….

HEAVY SOCIAL MEDIA USERS are more prone to turning their online engagements into flirtations since most of their time is spent on social media.

They want to make quick friends and chat with as many people as possible. When some chats become regular and flirtatious, the possibility of an affair increases rapidly.

This makes them more into the likelihood of cheating than sustaining a serious relationship.

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

​Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today.

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the dream. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience. 

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t.

Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.

We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call IT.

WHO SAID ITS EVIL !!!

​SEX IN MARRIAGE

By Pastor Khathide

A lot of people don’t associate sex with God; they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy.!! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex. Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style, or the doggy, because Adam might have learnt it from animals.

Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!! Pastor Khathide has counseled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his brother.

There was one who told him: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.

Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasure elsewhere. Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don’t. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a ladies private part. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner. A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husbands’ private parts look like. She only feels it when he enters her.

They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.  A man’s private part is a wife’ s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

He blames couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years.

God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed. WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?

Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We’ re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic? This is the Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth.

Once you read this you have to keep it going. Age has nothing to do with sex. The older you are the more you should enjoy it.

Peace be unto your marriage, let love and sex fill your marriage.