Types of ladies you should never date

As we go on dates trying to cast our nets wide in search of ‘the ONE’ we come across different types of people, some with traits we would rather avoid.

Dating is not about critically evaluating potential partners, because you can never find anyone who is perfect, but learning which flaws you are willing to handle for the sake of a solid relationship.

Healthy relationships are a two way street and are vital for our overall well-being, both parties need to learn how to be the best version of themselves for their partners.

However, sometimes it may seem like everyone you settle for is the ‘wrong ONE’. Well, if you’re one of these guys, below are five kinds of women to avoid:

  1. The psycho.

These women can be the most beautiful women in the planet, sometimes supermodel gorgeous and you even find yourself pinching yourself to prove you’re not dreaming… she is actually dating you!

Her beauty easily blinds you; she is a special kind of crazy! This girl will stalk your social media profiles, she will even find distant cousins that you never knew you even had.

She has anger outbursts, unpredictable moods, one minute she loves you and the next is biting your head off.

She may have an actual personality disorder and zero insight about her behaviour.

She may even say she is “PMS-ing” but do not buy that excuse.

You might need to change your number or move houses if you leave this kind of woman.

2. The damsel in distress.

You must ask yourself, why is she always having problems? Why is there always something bad happening to her.

You don’t need to be a superhero. Rescuing that troubled woman can be somehow appealing.

She has a low paying job and she can’t foot her car loan once again so you pity her and this tugs at your heartstrings and you foot yet another bill for her. She is incapable of pulling herself up by her bootstraps.

Just remember, if you rescue a damsel in distress, you end up with nothing more than a distressed damsel. Ask yourself what will happen if you needed to count on her.

You should not have to rescue a person time and again. Run!

3. The needy one.

She is a bottomless well of needs. Clingy is the word.

You must constantly reassure her of your love and that everything in the relationship is okay.

She wanted to get married from date three and believes you are her “soul mate.” If you miss her calls or fail to respond to texts instantly she gets a panic attack.

Forget about boys’ nights out, she simply cannot let you out of her sight, and on the off chance she does, your phone will be blowing up all evening.

This kind of woman will fish for compliments from you and is always spewing negative comments about herself.

It is absolutely okay to reassure your partner every now and then, however, a woman who solely depends on outside affirmation to feel good can weigh you down. In fact, you may die trying to make her feel secure in herself. My advice? Cut the weight.

4. The control freak.

Do you wonder if you exist in your relationship?

These women are as bossy as they come. Some hide behind what NeYo calls ‘miss independent’ tag.

She makes all the decisions and beats you down when you try to assert yourself.

She decides when and where you go, with whom you go on dates and may even isolate you from your regular friends.

Your friends are noticing that she is the one in control of everything and begin losing respect for you.

Take back your self-respect and leave this woman!

5. The “you complete me” woman

These kinds of women use phrases like “You complete me.” At first it will seem fine when she wants to be around you most of the time as the relationship is still in its honeymoon stage. But soon it will begin draining you.

This may go to the extent of you changing your religious beliefs, hobbies or group of friends.

It is healthy to be in a relationship with a woman who knows that there is life outside of your relationship; a woman who has her own friends and activities to indulge in so as to create mystery and depth in the relationship.

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●Don’t shout at your wife when you are talking. It really hurts her. (Proverbs 15:1)

●Do not speak evil of her to anyone. Your wife will become who you call her. (Gen. 2:19)

●Do not share her love or affection with another woman. It is called Adultery. (Matt. 5:28)

●Never compare your wife to another woman. If the other woman was good for you, God would have given her to you. (2 Cor. 10:12)

●Don’t ever allow her to beg you for sex. She owns your body just as you own her body. (1 Cor. 7:5)

●Be gentle and accommodating. She has sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her deeply when you are hash and irritating. Be tender. (Eph. 4:2)

●Hide nothing from her. You are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret you are keeping from her. (Gen. 2:25)

●Do not make negative comment about her body. She risked her life and beauty to carry your babies. She is a living soul not just flesh and blood.

●Do not let her body determine her worth. Cherish and appreciate her even till old age. (Eph. 5:29)

●Never shout at her in the public and in private. If you have an issue to sort with her, do it in the privacy of your room. (Matt. 1:19)

●Thank and appreciate her for taking good care of you, the kids and the house. It is a great sacrifice she is making. (1 The 5:18)

●All women cannot cook the same way; appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to cook three meals a day, 365 days a year for several years. (Pro. 31:14)

●Never place your siblings before her. She is your wife. She is one with you. She must come before your family. (Gen. 2:24)

●Invest seriously in her spiritual growth. Buy books, tapes and any material that will edify her and strengthen her walk with God. That’s the best thing you can do for her. (Eph. 5:26)

●Spend time with her to do Bible study and pray. (James 5:16)

●Make time to play with her and enjoy her company. Remember when you are dead, she’s gonna be by your grave but your friends may be too busy to attend your funeral. (Ecc. 9:9)

●Never use money to manipulate or control her. All your money belongs to her. She is a joint heir with you of the grace of God. (1 Pet. 3:7)

●Do not expose her weakness. You will be exposing yourself too. Be a shield around her. (Eph. 5:30)

●Never cease to tell her how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never tired of hearing that. (Eph. 5:25)

●Grow to be like Christian ,That’s the only way you can be a good and godly husband. (Rom. 8:29)


Heartbreak. It’s one of the biggest issues that comes up in my private practice. Love gone awry equals deep emotional pain, a spike in insecurity and a temporary desire to retreat from the world, at least from the dating world. Nothing can rock one’s life more than suffering from a broken heart.

Scientists have gotten very good at identifying the areas of the brain that are responsible for this undeniable despair. The neuroscience behind heartbreak seems to suggest love is not only an emotion, but also functions as an action. Love is actually goal-oriented. When people are in love, their only motivation is to get and keep the object of their desires. The part of the brain devoted to the breakup has thousands of neural circuits devoted to this person, so it takes the brain some time to realize, come to terms with and ultimately recover from the harsh reality that this person is no longer there; hence, the reason why we feel this profound pain.

But what if this pain, this heartbreak, was actually good for you? Hard to imagine, right? But this is exactly what I told my heartbroken girlfriend: “Your heartbreak is good for you!” Sounds like a heartless response, doesn’t it? But it actually wasn’t. At least it wasn’t meant to be.

You’re supposed to feel badly after a breakup. It’s the body’s way of communicating its pain. And if managed correctly, this heartbreak can lead you to a better, more creative and much stronger emotional place.

There are many potentially positive effects of experiencing and working through one’s heartbreak. It’s not easy work, that’s for sure, but if you put in the time, the benefits can be huge!

• Strength Comes From Your Resilience

After the dust settles, there is strength one can gain on the other side of heartbreak. You learn that you’re absolutely able to bounce back from the tremendous sadness and grief the demise of this relationship has caused.

• Important Lessons Can Be Learned

When a relationship ends, new questions get asked. Self-awareness can increase. Figuring out what you have learned from this situation, and how it has served as a stepping stone for your future relationships is invaluable information for you to have.

• Figure Out What Changes Need to Be Made

This may be the perfect time to look at your own shortcomings, as few as they might be (wink, wink). When we modify our own behavior and learn how to create positive personal adjustments, this creates a tremendous sense of empowerment and hope. This shift in thinking can also help our next relationship to be more rewarding and successful.

• And Finally We Develop a Deep Sense of Gratitude

It’s not uncommon for people post-heartbreak to look back on their past and ill-fated relationship with a sense of gratitude. They feel happy they are no longer with this person, yet equally grateful this person was a part of their love journey history. They feel thankful this experience helped shape them into being the person they are today.

So you see, heartbreak can provide a lot of positive psychological benefits. And It can ultimately pave the way for having something bigger, better and more beautiful come your way. And if none of the above strategies work for you, remember:

 Living well is always the best revenge! 

Esther Ampadu

SEPTEMBER 27, 2017 AT AM7:44

 Going through heartbreaks in relationship really strengthens you, gives you all the experience you need and prepares you for your true love


 Many times we have insisted a lot on men being romantic forgetting that women should be romantic too.

Men secretly want women who are romantic, and most men define it as a romantic woman is a woman who can see them, treat them and respond to them in a special way all the time. So how can you do it as a woman?


Treat yourself with respect, nurture your ego and let you know who is the most special man in the world. This, dear, is the most romantic thing you can do for your man.


Enjoy the little things he does for you, enjoy the environment and appreciate the great things when you’re together; Enjoy everything, appreciate their presence, appreciate their attention with giving back attention. Any woman who appreciates her man will certainly want to give the world to him.


Be there for him, support him at all times, and through his actions he knows he has a soldier who has turned his back. When you are always there for him, that is the best gift you can give.


You would be surprised to know that men also like to be surprised by their wives. Instead of doing everything that gets all the time, take the time to surprise your man, and you will be surprised how excited you get. When you excite his man wait to get excited in return.


Love your man always loving him and loving him when he is right when he is wrong. Love when he is gentle and loving when he is upset. He notices his love for him, and he tends to calibrate, and when he believes that his love for him is high, he would love and appreciate even more.


Sometimes all you have to do is listen and pay attention to it. Give your attention, and when you do this, you pass a message to it that it is worth.

If you have not done these things for your man, then you’ve never been romantic with him.


HEAVY SOCIAL MEDIA USERS are more prone to turning their online engagements into flirtations since most of their time is spent on social media.

They want to make quick friends and chat with as many people as possible. When some chats become regular and flirtatious, the possibility of an affair increases rapidly.

This makes them more into the likelihood of cheating than sustaining a serious relationship.

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

​Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today.

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the dream. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience. 

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t.

Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.

We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call IT.



By Pastor Khathide

A lot of people don’t associate sex with God; they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy.!! The bible is explicit when it comes to sex. Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.

Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style, or the doggy, because Adam might have learnt it from animals.

Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!! Pastor Khathide has counseled women who’ve complained: my husband treats me as if I were his brother.

There was one who told him: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary. Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.

Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasure elsewhere. Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don’t. Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.

Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a ladies private part. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.

Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner. A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husbands’ private parts look like. She only feels it when he enters her.

They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.  A man’s private part is a wife’ s toy – she is supposed to play with it.

He blames couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years.

God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed. WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?

Why can’t you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife? We’ re all equal in sex – it’s not just about a woman satisfying a man. You have to satisfy each other. Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied? Have you noticed how she glows and becomes energetic? This is the Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth.

Once you read this you have to keep it going. Age has nothing to do with sex. The older you are the more you should enjoy it.

Peace be unto your marriage, let love and sex fill your marriage.


I consider myself the consummate bachelor. I loved being free and I enjoyed being in control of what I do and when I do it. I was a pretty happy guy who have never been in love and never hope to.

I have watched my friends fall in love time and again only to get broken when things ended. I was fine with the way things were.


There were girls willing to keep me company when I needed and I was always aiming to please. I made sure I kept up with S3@.x:’ trends and always upped my game because it was important for my lady friends to feel satisfied.

Sure, a couple of them had fallen in love with me but  I tried to set boundaries where I can so I would not feel guilty if I had told them I was not romantically interested in them. This brings me to the story of Victoria.

Victoria and I have been really good friends for a long time. I met her when she was dating Brian, a friend of mine.

Brian and I hung out a lot so this meant Victoria was almost always around. Things did not end well for Brian and Vic however because they broke up after he cheated on her.

Vic and I remained friends after the breakup, though. At first, the friendship was mostly about Vic wanting to talk about her relationship with Brian and how hurt she was.

Soon, we started talking about other things. She was fun, funny and smart, not to mention she was beautiful and really S3@.x:’y.

Her assets were not really so eye-catching but the way she carried her slim body and swung her hips when she walked was very attractive.

One Sunday, a few months after her breakup, she came to visit me. I tried to make her comfortable and we had a good time.

I had not decided if I would make a move on her because I knew Brian might not approve of that. So I kept my distance. We talked for a couple of hours.

I was enjoying myself with her. I was about to ask that we hang out more often when she moved closer to me on the couch where we were sitting, held my hands and said: ” jemmy, I think I am falling in love with you.”

I was taken aback and shocked. “Vic, you know I don’t do the love thing now. I like you, but we cannot have a romantic thing together.”

She nodded her head like she understood. “Okay,” she said. She then came closer to me and gave me a sweet, tentative kiss.

I held her at the back of her neck and deepened the kiss. Brian’s feelings be damned, there is no way I was giving up my chance to F**.Ck Vic.

She began to pull my shirt off. I moved my mouth from her long enough for my shirt to come off. I lifted her own blouse over her head too then unclasped her bra from the back so her small, perky B@.0bs were face to face with me.

I covered one N!.ppls with my mouth and began sucking them. I did the same with the other as she moaned in response. My mouth left her tits and I laid her down on the couch.

My mouth went down her stomach to the base of her jeans. I unhooked the button and zipper and took her jeans off. I slowly began kissing her flat stomach straight down to her panties.

I pushed her panties to the side and stuck one finger in her. When she started bucking wildly against me, I inserted two fingers and began to suck gently on her clit. I sucked and finger-F**Cked her until she cried out.

“Oh, my F**.Cking gosh, jemmy, I’m cumming! Ohh.. Yeah.. Ahh!!” She moaned, bucking her hips wildly against my mouth. I continued driving her crazy with my hand and mouth until she clenched, then released and squirted cum all over my hand.

By this time, I was already hard as a rock and I took off my own jeans while she took off her panties. I settled between her legs shove my hard C@.ck into her tight cunt.

She dug her fingernails into my back as my big d.!ck pushed into her. She wrapped her legs around me as I started to pound her S3@.x:’y little cunt. She soon started to cum again as she used her legs to squeeze me so hard and found her release.

Her org@.$m had made her so wet that my d.!ck was sliding in and out freely. I reached my mouth down to capture her N!.ppls again as I dug my d.!ck deeper into her.

She held on to me tight as we F**.Cked. She was a loud one in bed. She met my thrusts and cried out each time I hit deep into her. I soon began ramming my hard C@.ck into her as I held on to her and found my own climax.

“I love you,” she said again as I laid on top of her.

I pretended like I did not hear her.

coitus is a very big part of a relationship

This is especially difficult when there’s a problem to discuss. However, here are some tips to have a conversation with your partner about the bedroom.

1. Clarify your definitions of a “healthy love life”.
It’s important to be on the same page. Talk to your significant other about what they think is healthy and give your definition, too.

One of you may think that twice a month is healthy while the other thinks anything less than two times a week in unhealthy. Also, compromise and redefine “healthy love life” to suit both of your needs if there is any discrepancy.

2. Keep the conversation light and fun.
This can be an awkward conversation. Try to make it as light as possible. This can be very dependent on your tone. Feel free to make jokes. Also, be sure to have this conversation outside of the bedroom.

3. Speak up.
You need to speak up about your needs and desires. Your partner can’t read your mind, and you need to let them know if you want them to know something. People can be afraid to express their needs in this particular area, and you shouldn’t be afraid. This is your partner, and you should be able to tell them anything.

4. Listen.
One of the biggest mistakes people make during a hard conversation is forget to listen to the other person’s concerns. Your partner may have things that they would like to discuss, too. Open your ears and be ready to listen just as much as you want your partner to listen.

5. Open your mind.
Your life in the bedroom won’t always be exciting. In fact, one of the biggest problems for a couple in this area is the fact that the spark can start to dwindle. One way to help reignite the spark is to open your mind and be open to try new and different things. Even if it’s not something that you come to enjoy, you can at least have the experience of trying something new with your partner.

6. Consider therapy.
Many couple can benefit from couples therapy with a therapist who specializes in helping couples in the bedroom. This doesn’t have to mean that your lovemaking moments are not great. It simply means that you’ve come to a point where some advice can make things even better. This can be intimidating to many couples.

5. Open your mind.
Your life in the bedroom won’t always be exciting. In fact, one of the biggest problems for a couple in this area is the fact that the spark can start to dwindle. One way to help reignite the spark is to



      Accept others for
      who they are and
      for the choices they
      have made even if
      you have difficulty
      understanding their
      beliefs, motives
      or actions.

      *BREAK AWAY*
      Break away from
      everything that
      stands in the way
      of what you hope
      to accomplish
      with your life.

      Create a family
      of friends whom
      you can share your
      hopes, dreams,
      sorrows, and
      happiness together.

      Decide that you’ll be
      successful *&* happy
      come what may, and
      good things will find
      you. The roadblocks
      are only minor
      obstacles along
      the way.

      Explore & experiment.
      The world has much
      to offer, and you
      have much to give.
      And every time you
      try something new,
      you’ll learn more
      about yourself.

      Grudges only weigh
      you down and inspire
      unhappiness *&* grief.
      Soar above it, and
      remember that
      everyone makes

      Leave the childhood
      monsters behind. They
      can no longer hurt you
      or stand in your way.

      Hope for the best
      and never forget that
      anything is possible
      as long as you remain
      dedicated to the task.

      Ignore the negative
      voice inside your head.
      Focus instead on your
      goals and remember
      your accomplishments.
      Your past success is only
      a small inkling of what
      the future holds.

      Journey to new worlds,
      new possibilities, is
      mostly by remaining
      Try to learn something
      new every day and you
      will grow in Knowledge.

      Know that no matter
      how bad things seem,
      to be they will always
      get better.
      The harshest Winter
      always follows the
      Warmth of Spring.

      Let love fill your
      heart instead of hate.
      When hate is in your
      heart, there is *NO* room
      for anything else,
      but when love is in
      your heart, there’s
      room for endless

      Manage your time and
      your expenses wisely,
      and you’ll suffer less
      stress and worry.
      Then you’ll be able to
      focus on the important
      things in life.

      Never ignore the poor,
      infirm, helpless, weak,
      or suffering people.
      Offer your assistance
      when possible, and
      always your kindness
      and understanding.

      Open your eyes and
      take in all the beauty
      around you.
      Even during the
      worst of times,
      there’s still much
      to be thankful for.

      Never forget to have
      fun along the way.
      Success means nothing
      without happiness.

      Ask many questions,
      because you are here
      to learn & be informed.

      Refuse to let worry
      and stress rule your
      Life, and remember
      that things always
      have a way of working
      out in the end.

      Share your talent,
      skills, knowledge,
      and time with others.
      Everything that you
      invest in others will
      return to you many
      times Multiplied.

      Even when your
      dreams seem
      impossible to reach,
      try anyway. You’ll be
      amazed by what you
      can accomplish.

      Use your gifts to
      your best ability.
      Talent that is wasted
      has no value. Talent
      that is made into
      efforts will bring
      unexpected rewards.

      Value the friends and
      family members who
      have supported and
      encouraged you *&* be
      there for them as well.

      Work hard every day
      to be the best person
      you aspire to be, but
      never feel guilty if you
      fall short of your goals.
      Every *sunrise* offers
      a second chance.

      Look deep inside the
      hearts of those around
      you and you will see
      the goodness and
      beauty within.

      Yield to commitment.
      If you stay on track
      and remain dedicated,
      you will find success
      at the end of the road.

      Zoom to a happy
      place when bad
      memories or sorrow
      rears its ugly head.
      Let nothing interfere
      with your goals.
      Instead, focus on
      your abilities, in
      your dreams, and
      a brighter tomorrow.
      Have a fruitful life.

      *Do have a Pleasant*friends wu ain’t self imposed
    *and a Blessed Family*

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